“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Teese
For years, I battled with approval addiction. Time and again I performed—looking to avoid rejection and gain others’ acceptance.
If you’ve ever been there you know there’s always
One more pound to gain…
One more pound to lose.
One more habit to start…
One more habit to break.
Performing for acceptance never ends!
It feels like a hamster running on its wheel—constantly active but never making real progress.
But is it possible to overcome?
I finally found my courage and released the self-limiting beliefs that had kept me from achieving my potential.
And I believe the same of you.
You are capable of living a life that reaches your full potential!
But that life begins only if we shake off the need to perform for others’ approval.
It begins when we embrace that true fulfillment only comes from hearing the voice of God and obeying His instructions.
From personal experience though, I’ve found that God’s voice isn’t the only voice that tries to speak to us.
There are three other voices we often run across in life:
1. The Voice of Haters.
No matter what you do, a hater will always hate!
You can spot a hater by the negative things they say when things are positive for you.
A hater inadvertently tries to disguise their hate as their own version of truth.
Stay clear of people who wrap hate in words like “keeping it real.”
Nothing you do can change the way haters feel because their problem isn’t really with you to begin with—it’s something that’s missing in themselves.
2. The Voice of Indifference.
There are over 6 billion people on the planet and the reality is that the most of them will never know you, let alone have an opinion either way about you.
This group’s voice is silent and neutral—it is neither for you nor against you.
3. The Voice of Unconditional Love.
There will always be those who love you unconditionally.
Their voice is supportive and isn’t based on your performance—it’s rooted in their relationship with who you.
I believe that every single person deserves to be happy.
But true happiness is found only when we embrace God’s voice and what He says about who we are and what we can do.