Recently, I ran across an incredibly interesting video of a TED Talk given by New York Times Op-Ed columnist David Brooks.
In his TED Talk, Mr. Brooks outlines a very thought-provoking question:
“Should we live our lives with our résumés or our eulogies in mind?”
Let me explain…
In his talk, Mr. Brooks shares that in life there are two sets of virtues: (1) Résumé Virtues & (2) Eulogy Virtues.
Resume virtues are the skills you’d place on your resume. They’re what you bring to the marketplace.
Eulogy virtues are the qualities you’d be remembered for in your eulogy. They’re usually much deeper and have to do with the quality of your relationships and who you were as a person.
No matter how accomplished, resume virtues are rarely ever highlighted in a person’s eulogy.
How often at funerals do you hear
“Man, she really worked such long hours…
And she worked late so many times…
Until she was finally promoted to Senior Vice President of the company.”
Although many of us would say that eulogy virtues matter most, Mr. Brooks points out that today’s results-driven culture still places much more emphasis on resume virtues than it does eulogy virtues.
In his talk, Mr. Brooks challenges us to examine our lives and to think about how we want to be remembered.
He pushes us to wrestle with this ongoing tension without declaring either set of virtues inherently right or wrong.
I’d love for you to take a quick look at Mr. Brooks’ TED Talk below and jump into the conversation afterwards.
In your opinion, how do you manage the tension between the resume and eulogy virtues in your own life?
Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below.